How to cope when grieving

People grieve and cope with loss in their own individual way. 

Consider the following: 

1. Allow yourself to grieve — create time and space to experience the range of emotions that come following the loss of a loved one. It is important to be able to identify and acknowledge the emotions you are experiencing. You may find it helpful to write down what you are thinking and feeling. There is no right or wrong, simply your own experience. You may find it helpful to talk with a close friend or family member about your experience. Someone you can trust and rely on to listen to you. 

2. Take care of yourself—eat well, hydrate, exercise and get plenty of sleep. Try to maintain normal routines wherever possible. Initially you may consider taking time out from work and study commitments to lessen the stress on you at this time. 

1. Do not place unrealistic expectations on yourself and avoid making big decisions. 

3. Accept help from others — let family and friends know what they can do to help. Consider talking to a health professional or joining a support group to share your experience and listen to the experience of others in a similar situation. 

4. Avoid negative coping strategies and avoidance techniques—you may find in the short-term that it is easier to abuse substances such as alcohol and drugs as the experience of intense pain and sadness is reduced temporarily. However, these avoidance strategies only delay the grieving 

5. process and have a negative impact on our emotional and physical well-being. Identify other healthy coping strategies such as exercise or meditation to bring some relief. 

6. Prepare for stressful events—birthdays and other special occasions or certain places may elicit a strong emotional response. Be aware of this and identify what you can do to cope. Plan an activity or engage in a ritual at this time to remember and acknowledge the loss. Allow yourself to celebrate the happy memories you have of the deceased.

• Contact Lifeline: 13 11 14 (available 24/7) or chat to a Crisis Supporter online at lifeline.org.au every night. 
• Mensline Australia: 1300 78 99 78 (24hrs) 
• Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 
• Beyondblue: 1300 22 46 36

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